Hi Nonna,
Starting a new school can feel really scary. You don’t know anyone, and it feels like everyone already has their own group of friends. You might think that if you talk to someone, they will think you are weird. I know why you feel that way because I remember feeling the same. Walking into a classroom where everyone seems to know each other can make you feel alone. You may wonder if you will ever fit in or make friends. Those thoughts are normal, and many students feel the same way.
But I want you to know that most kids are nervous too, even if they don’t show it. They are not thinking about you as much as you think. Most people are busy worrying about themselves. A simple “Hi” or asking someone a question can be the start of a new friendship. You do not have to be the funniest or the loudest person in the room. Just be kind, smile, and be willing to talk to people. You are enough.
There will be days when you feel left out or think you said something embarrassing. That happens to everyone. Try not to let one bad moment make you think that no one likes you. One awkward conversation does not decide what will happen next. Every new day gives you another chance to meet someone new. Making friends takes time, so don’t give up.
Don’t spend too much time holding yourself back because you think others might not like you. Every friend starts as someone you didn’t know. If you never give new people a chance, you could miss out on great friends, fun memories, and happy times at school. Some of the people you are afraid to talk to today could become your best friends later.
Remember to join things you enjoy, like volleyball or art. When you do activities you like, it is easier to meet people who like the same things. You already have things that make you a good friend. You are kind, creative, and caring. People like friends who listen, help others, and are honest. You do not need to pretend to be someone else just to fit in.
It might feel uncomfortable at first, but it gets easier with time. Confidence does not come before you try. It grows because you keep trying. Every time you say hello, answer a question in class, or join a conversation, you become a little braver. Even if one conversation does not go well, the next one could be completely different.
Also, remember to be kind to yourself. You will make mistakes, and that is okay. Nobody is perfect. Instead of thinking only about what went wrong, think about the things you did well. Be proud of the small steps you take, even if they seem little. Every small step helps you become more confident.
If I could give you one piece of advice, it would be this: keep putting yourself out there. Be yourself, smile, and don’t let fear decide your future. Believe in yourself, even when it feels hard. You are stronger than you think, and you have so much to offer. You will make friends, have fun, and create memories that you will never forget.
Sincerely,
Your future self
Nonna Porkhun – DePaul College Prep – DMSF Class of 2030
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