Some people may ask “How Do I Find The Right Friend”. When you meet someone you don’t know anything about them, maybe not even their name. You don’t know how they are because some people can be nice or mean and sometimes judgy. It’s hard to know if the person is nice or a trouble maker on the first expression. Everybody is shy and doesn’t want to talk because some might think they are going to embarrass themselves, so they all mostly look very nice. But in reality some people are not nice.
To be able to find the right friend you would want to open up to them and tell them what age you are and what your name is. Try to be as confident as you can and talk loud and clear.
Such as their goals and what they are interested in, like their hobbies. Some people might lie about what they are interested in to sound like a fun person, but people should tell the truth about what they are interested in because you would not like to do something that is not really in your interest.
The right friend is when they stick around with you on the good times and on the bad times. No matter what Let’s say you guys entered an art contest and your friend ended up in 5th place but you ended up winning first place. Instead of her whining and getting mad at you for winning she would tell you congrats.
How can you tell that she’s not a good friend? If she forces you to do something you do not want to do but is telling you that “if you don’t do it I’ll tell everyone your secrets.” that’s not a true friend. You might do what she’s asking you because you are scared of what will happen if she reveals your secrets. But that’s no right, you should always trust your guts.
You would need to let go of your “best friend” if she’s not the right friend for you. Some people would start missing their “best friend” when getting out of a toxic friend relationship or them not being the right person. But instead of that you should learn how to let go of that person because if you don’t let go of that person you might start thinking that you would want to be their friend again, but don’t go back this is because if you left them on for one reason the second time you are going to leave them for many reasons and you will be more sad.
To let go of that person you would need to remind yourself why you stop being friends with them. There were many reasons why you decided to end the relationship. Don’t be wasting your time on thighs you cannot change that person. But do find forgiveness for that person. Every person deserves forgiveness. Remind yourself that it is okay to be sad and that is not dumb for the reason you are sad. Also start focusing on yourself and doing the stuff that makes you happy, like getting ice cream, or hanging out with your family that is more important than friendship.
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Artist: Md. Sajjad Hossan Sajib
Vanessa Miranda-Cristo Rey Jesuit-DMSF Class of 2028